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This blog post contains a lot of explicit language if you are sensetive to this type of stuff please skip.
This is a common phrase I hear most of the time directed either to me or to other people in my daily life and it sometimes keeps me awake at night thinking about it. It’s complete utter bullshit (excuse my language) its a pile of garbage people say just to justify the conflict between their alter ego’s in check. Or when they just can't accept their archetype. A self justifying philosophy for people with superior complex that lurks deep within their subconscious. The fuck you want me to be happy for. If you want to then do it, if you don’t want to then don’t, don’t justify your bullshit with my motive. Well lets take a deeper look at it I guess yeah
The phrase “I do this because I want you to be happy” promises hope and refuge to the lonely, but it also carries a heavy burden; it implies that each time someone is not satisfied with their current situation, they must look outside themselves in order to find true contentment. This statement raises several questions: what the fuck does it mean, why do people say it, or are they just afraid to admit something and what is its fucking impact on happiness?
At first glance, this statement may appear to be selfless and benevolent. After all, it suggests that a person should prioritize another’s emotions above their own since genuine joy cannot be found without making sure the other person’s needs are met first. On deeper analysis though, this mantra may reveal little more than an attempt of escape from one’s own responsibility for achieving personal happiness.
Why the fuck do people use this phrase as a way of handling difficult conversations and moments? It could be argued that they may prefer pretending that every outcome is infallibly grounded in altruism instead of being honest about their motivations or desires. They might think it’s easier to accept praise for doing something out of kindness without having to acknowledge why they wanted the other person to experience pleasure in the first place; no one likes confrontations so avoiding any explanation strengthens the facade. Consequently, by perpetuating this ambiguous saying anyone can avoid accountability yet maintain an air of goodness.
Whether spoken as means of shielding someone from hurtful thoughts or manipulation – there exists proof that using these words as a crutch reduces more than just stress levels. A greater consequence could be felt if this thought process becomes subconsciously entrenched since then sacrificing individual aspirations for others may become an obligation rather than being optional. This could lead people into forgetting about their goals and creating resolutions solely out of the desire to please others; such illusory internalization lessens one’s probability of experiencing real happiness even if they manage to bring joy into others lives. Depressed little piece of shit.
In conclusion, “I do this because I want you to be happy” reads like a heartfelt sentiment with potentially positive consequences but in reality conveys far less profound implications namely avoiding disapproval or examining hidden feelings. These underlying intents might not always look deleterious at surface level yet conditioned acceptance certainly undermines long-term satisfaction by relying wholly on external validation rather than personalized ambitions.